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When
sex becomes a bargaining tool Why do you make love? For pleasure? To express yourself? To satisfy your sex drive? All these possibilities are valid and probably vary according to your mood or the time of day. But have you ever used sex for less noble means?
Psychologist Micheline Dubé gives us her version of the facts: "Pouting
and muttering for three days is a kind of childish control that the man
tries to have over his partner. When a woman reacts by making love to him,
she attempts to reverse the roles and to take control of the situation.
But it's just a short-term solution." An old story Using sex as a bartering tool is hardly a new phenomenon. Aristophanes,
father of Greek comedy, created the character of Lysistrata in 400 B.C. In
his eponymous play, the heroine gathers every woman of the Attic and the
principal cities of antique Greece, which were at war.
Of course, in Aristophanes' comedy, the cause was noble. But today, the
currency of sex is a bit questionable. "Instead of immediately saying that it's unhealthy, we look to history
to explain this behaviour," Saulnier suggests. "In the past, it was
noticed that the more a group was denied power, the more it tried to
create a balance and find other sources of power where it could. Being a
means within reach, sex has always represented a way to exploit the
powerful." Another historical example occurred in World War II France. During the
German occupation, many French women had relations with German men to
obtain favours. In exchange, they had decent room and board and were
permitted to continue raising their children. "The use of sex as a
commodity cannot be separated from its context," specifies the sexologist.
"Women did not get to that point simply for straight manipulation, but for
historical, political and economic reasons."
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